Cross Roads

We have had two days now of relative calm. OLA seems for the moment to be once again holding it together. But it is a tenacious line we walk. Last night we decided for the first time in nineteen years not to put up our Christmas tree the day before Thanksgiving. It is just to much for OLA to manage. We are going to wait a couple of weeks to lessen the impact (we hope). BBA was a little disappointed but it is better than the alternative - which is to not put it up at all. We are also trying to decide whether or not to discontinue OLA medication. Although it has helped with some of the more intense ADHD behaviors there is some indication that it also intensifies the ODD behaviors. OLA has been very reluctant to take them and some days he down right refuses. We are at a cross roads - do we watch the ADHD behaviors increase in hopes of lessening the ODD. Or do we force the meds and watch as the ODD behaviors occur with ever increasing frequency and intensity. We face these cross roads almost daily - which is the lesser of the two evils when it comes to this disorder of FASD. Then there is the new research of the long term prognosis for out comes of children who have untreated ADHD. Or what happens if the ODD lands him eventually in prison long term. How's a parent to decide when neither plan usually ends with a pleasant out come. Which life jacket is least likely to drowned all of us? Who knows? Decisions, decisions, decisions - we are at our daily cross roads.